Frustrated Old Man
by Mary Ann
My father who is 83 years old has been alone in his home since mother died. I needed to move closer to him as my husband and I began to sense he may be losing his sense of right and wrong to the point that driving, cooking and everyday activities are getting downright dangerous.
When mother died he indicated that we should live our own lives and not to be interfering with him and how he lives as he raised us and knows more about us than we do him, etc., etc.
We decided to move closer to him a year ago and wow the things we began to see, hear and experience were both saddening and scary to say the least.
His car literally has dents now in all four corners..."whiskey bumps" although he does not drink...that we know of.
The kitchen and the whole house really is in shambles and looks to be a hoarder starter home...soda cans stacked everywhere, old magazines, newspapers unopened just thrown in the corner. You can barely see the TV for all the "stuff" scattered around.
The fridge is VERY scary as it looks like a lab experiment with fungus and mold growing on most items in there. He says not to worry that we goes out to eat most days....heck, one meal from the fridge and it is over....
Does anyone have any experience with this and have advice as I have broached the subject with him many times and he gets frustrated and angry and tells me to mind my own business....any thoughts or comments would be helpful..