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We moved out of State and my Parents had to move with either us or my Sister. They picked us which was fine - we invited them. My sister is addicted to pain pills, abusive, anger issues, totaled a car, beat up on her husband who has now left her and is the most narcissistic person you ever met.
My Dad died 4 months after they got here 2 1/2 years ago. My sister and her husband (they were still together) came for a little Memorial and my Mom went back with them for a visit. My Sister treated her awful - Sister is Angry they picked us to live with. When my Mom came home after a 6 week visit - my Sister had her husband call and tell my Mother and me we were NEVER TO CALL THERE AGAIN and that my Sister never wanted to speak to us again.
So it's all on me to take care of Mom. She is 88 - can get around but is slow - she can care for herself so that is good - she WORRIES beyond anything I can even explain - She shadows me - If I say - I'm going to make some breakfast she jumps up gets in my way to make hers.
She WON'T go to bed at night until I do - even though she is tired and wants to go. The worst thing is she is scared to stay at our house alone in the evening so me and the Hubby haven't had a date night in 2 years.
My husband is awesome - no complaints from him - he gets it - when I bring it up - she puts the guilt trip on and poor me crap. It's making me not like her and that makes me feel bad. I just NEED SOME SPACE AND TIME FOR ME AND MY HUSBAND. Not even that much - a few times a year would make all the difference.