Frustrated and Wanting to Leave...

by Alan
(California)

My parents were not in the best of health growing up and my dad had 5 strokes during my late teens and through my twenties. My mom had two strokes six months apart after my dad passed away.


I've worked 2 jobs and went to school at night in order to always help financially and be around for all the other necessities. BTW - I'm an only child and for some reason both sides of the family consider us the "black" sheep and don't care, have talked, reached out, or helped in the past and present.

I'm so angry and frustrated that I was born into this crappy life and feel as if I've lost my youth and any ability to accomplish something significant during my prime years. (i.e. Teenage years all thru early Thirties)!!!My mom is now in a nursing home but still acts as if there is no one to help, as mentioned above, no family members from either side or friends, so all the pressure is on me to keep things cheerful and constantly do things like take her out and visit.

I feel like giving up and moving on with whatever life is left. I'm afraid that if I do have a family that I'm going to take my frustrations and anger out on them.

With all that said... I still love my mom and don't want her to feel abandoned.

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by: Jann

The only thing I can say is that so many of us are there and feel your pain and your lack of getting to be the real true person you were meant to be.

Don't know if this will make you feel any better, but there are many times that I wish I was an only child so that I wouldn't have to deal with the day by day, year after year of resentment I feel toward my sisters, who live in the same town as I do, yet will not do their part for mom, and leave it all to me.

I've even told my mom that I wish I had been an only child, then I wouldn't have to deal with the resentment, and yes I'll say it - HATE - that goes along with siblings leaving it all to one child to handle the load. They both live in the same town, one living 5 minutes away, and the other sitting on her throne and never worked a day in her life, yet leaving it all for me. Can you say hate?

I'm not a hater, I'm a very kind person, but I've been forced to learn hate, and yeah, it hurts a lot. I wish you the best and just know that, as hard as it is, resentment toward siblings isn't added to the troubles. God bless you.

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by: Christine

Give up. Surrender your burdens and make a life for yourself. Your mother is where she needs to be, and nothing is stopping you from being there for her - just not all of the time. If you don't care for yourself then that will be a life wasted to guilt. Please be well.

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