Frustrated and Upset at Mother in Law

by Chris
(United Kingdom)

I had a partner for six years.... He died due to alcoholism and addiction issues a year ago. I his younger sister sided two years ago and we then took his mum to live with us temporarily.. As she wasn't coping with it well. She had Aldo lost her husband plus don years ago too so it was just so sad! But my then partner fell ill and was in hospital with Hep C plus liver disease god a year and a half he was so gravely ill.


The doc said he wouldn't make it!! Went through blood transfusion plus got stents in his side to by pass his liver . He also had ulcers and two hernias one on stomach which they fixed successfully but still had a huge one on his testicles but they said they couldn't operate on him he was too weak.

So all this was do heartbreaking to watch someone you love die then pull through on two occasions. I thought he was so brave also lucky to be alive. I felt blessed. So things seemed to calm down and he seemed a lot healthier I was amazed at his recovery.

So meantime his mother was dealing with his younger sister who had addiction issues then ended up with me! Then in a wheelchair she was thirty seven do he and his mum were shocked.

Meantime we never seen much of his mum.. She only ever visited once in hospital. And once at our house. I was angry. I also had my own issues and problems with my ex and my three kids. Do I drank to numb the pain which he said he didn't mind.

I found it hard to cope with watching him be do I'll too. Anyway he started drinking lightly then using illegal drugs to numb his pain on his stomach and hernia which was getting bigger.

So on the end his sister died last year his mum was so devastated as she and her were so close but used drugs together for years. I never knew the extent of it all.

So she came go live here but caused a lot of arguments plus I couldn't sit near my partner and took over , was cheeky changed things around in my house. I couldn't take anymore me and him were fighting over it.

If was do hurtful and stressful she couldn't see what she was causing between us. Then she would have this book diary she would write evil stuff in it about her own son plus me I was she or her!!

In the end my partner stayed in the back room to get away from her! Anyway he died a year ago as he never went back to hospital . I've been stuck with her she's lost her house due to abandonment. I've it up with her moods. Drug use dementia she's creeping about all night.

She writes such nasty things is selfish . She has some stuff left from her house and she'd left it all over my house she's so ungrateful selfish. I'm like the lodger. Scared to come out my room . She is in charge of the TV she gets a lot of money and makes out she had spent it on me which is lies .

She takes all sorts of tablets illegal I've Sled her go stop she ignored I'm at the end of my tether I'm now on beta blockers. Antidepressants. I've pains in my chest.

I'm so fed up. I'm so so sorry but I've nobody. Thanks please help . Chris.(

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