I've been taking care of my mother for almost 13 years. For those of you reading all the posts, please do not judge. Anyone that takes a parent in to begin with is not cold or heartless. A lot of these elders can wear us down but being self-centered, selfish, demanding, opinionated and downright lazy.
Had I known what I know not, I may or may not have taken her in because she was essentially unable to care for herself, thanks to my father being a slave to her his entire life. I believe that parents that truly love their kids would not burden them like this.
I will not burden my daughter.
I'm 59 and spent 16 years as a respiratory therapist. People live too long. My best years are behind me. Despite being a health nut, working our my whole life and eating well, my body is slowly falling apart, as nature would have it.
No, I'm not going to be a burden, nor do I expect anyone to give up their life for me. Each generation has it's time. When my time is done, I will do nothing to prolong it and will try to do so with grace.
No complaining, no whining, no crying, no clinging, no demands, no expectations, no burden. For those of you who judge us as harsh, reserve your judgements. No one has been put on this earth to judge others.