I provide assistance to my elderly aunt. I have previously been full time carer for my father. Once he passed away I thought I would have my life back but it looks like I might be stuck in the caregiver rut again. I like to have a holiday once a year. Usually I get a house sitter in who also keeps an eye on my aunt.
A friend offered to call in on her and take her out to lunch - I did not ask her to do this, she volunteered the offer. I was very grateful and told her so.
Then my friend had things happening in her life, got busy, and had little time for me. I hadn't heard from her for a while so I sent her a note asking how she was and hoping all was well between us.
She emailed me a nasty reply saying I only contacted her because I was going away and wanted her to look after my aunt!! I was amazed!
Anyway I have learned from this that you can't trust anyone and you get no real help from your friends.