Friends......

by Helen
(Australia)

I provide assistance to my elderly aunt. I have previously been full time carer for my father. Once he passed away I thought I would have my life back but it looks like I might be stuck in the caregiver rut again. I like to have a holiday once a year. Usually I get a house sitter in who also keeps an eye on my aunt.


A friend offered to call in on her and take her out to lunch - I did not ask her to do this, she volunteered the offer. I was very grateful and told her so.

Then my friend had things happening in her life, got busy, and had little time for me. I hadn't heard from her for a while so I sent her a note asking how she was and hoping all was well between us.

She emailed me a nasty reply saying I only contacted her because I was going away and wanted her to look after my aunt!! I was amazed!

Anyway I have learned from this that you can't trust anyone and you get no real help from your friends.

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Talk is Cheap
by: Anonymous

I, too, have a very close friend who I talk to all the time about my situation. Never once has she volunteered to do one thing.

Having now gone through this myself, I wouldn't hesitate to visit a friend's parent on a daily basis so that they could get away for a few days.

I think people are afraid we are going to come to depend on them and they don't want to get in too deep. They don't realize that a little bit of help goes a long way.

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