i am extremely resentful being the "chosen one" caregiver to my mom...My dad passed away 5 months ago and I also did anything and everything for him and my mom, from finding nursing care, financial obligations, legal issues, last minute duties....and now it continues with mom...she recently fell and broke her ankle, and was completely disabled...

I have had to find her 24 hour home care...interviewed and spoken with endless possible caretakers. My brothers are lazy and I think they are deadbeats when it comes to this.. they don't even communicate and are MIA conveniently at times..

I am beyond frazzled and angry... to top it off we removed moms use of her car and driving 1 1/2 years ago and since my brother needed a car she gave it to him with the thought that he would pay her the monthly lease payment and car insurance.... he still has not, and now in planning her budget for home care she is barely able to meet her monthly costs for it.. He doesn't even offer to pay it.

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Mom is your priority
by: Anonymous

I identify with your problems. Sometimes I feel my brother is just waiting for Mom to die so he will receive his inheritance! Sad for him.

I have had to end my relationship with him totally because talking to him only increased my stress. I would seriously consider taking this car away from your brother.

I don't know if it can be sold or returned if it is a lease but the longer he has it the less value and more liability to your mom. She is your main priority right now. I wish you the best.

It seems to always fall on just one
by: Anonymous

It really does. Only one person seems to step up and the others are all too eager to let that one work until they are so burned out they can barely put one foot in front of the other but manages to do so until the end.

All I can say is, your family should be very ashamed of themselves. It is not fair what has been placed on your shoulders alone when they too are the children and have just as much responsibility to help care for ailing
parent(s)....or at least give the main caregiver a break. They will reap what they have sown - somehow - someway.

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