Fool of a Daughter
Wow. I live the furthest away and am a working woman who was single until recently. Now I am on parent number 2 with failing health.
Neither parent dealt with any end of life issues and just went blindly into old age. Since I am the 'nurse' and only daughter I am left with picking up the pieces. There is minimal and inconsistent help from siblings and their spouses and my parents have taken me for granted and been resentful of necessary changes.
Dad died with no concern for how Mom would cope. She coped poorly and ended up needing to be moved out of her home for health reasons. Now I have spent the last year with her in another state, sold her home, maintained the vacation home I never spent time at and taken her to all her medical appointments for the last year. This is in excess of 3 per week since she is on dialysis.
I am tired, sad, miss my husband and really hate my siblings. How did I became the bad guy?
Since my Mom had her once a year visit from one sibling I am now the unappreciated daughter and not to keen on continuing this scenario. I hate my Disneyland siblings and their families and am getting resentful of the loss of income and time from my own life.
Is their anyway to make sense of all this or is it time to throw them the bomb?