Fighting For Freedom

by Harriet
(Southport)

My father died two years ago and I now know how much patience he had to deal with my "difficult" elderly mother. I know she maybe scared but she says she does not mix easily, and it is difficult when all she talks about is the hard times she had as a child and she seems to think it is her duty to instruct us on the Second World War.


She is capable of going out and socializing but sits at home and only wants to be involved in what I am doing or going to the doctors. If we are going to visit friends she wants to come to.

I have got to the stage of feeling guilty about doing anything. My sister moved about 8 years ago to be near her own daughter and comes to visit for six monthly hospital appointments. She has said that she has had enough of elderly people (an aunt and grandparent lived with us when we were younger) and she can't hope with mother's being self centered.

I have asked her if she was going to visit more frequently or to discuss us sharing the responsibility maybe every other weekend but she hung the phone up on me and refuses to discuss.

I do love my mother but know that indirectly the anxiety of leaving her, the resentment and what the future holds is making me ill. I have recently undergone radiotherapy. I would just love that she recognized that other may people have needs other than hers.

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