Feeling Unappreciated

by Alanna
(Ontario)

I have given up 2 years of my life. I have closed my business to stay in the same town as my parents and have been living with my partner up until the New Year.


My dad has passed recently. I have moved in parents home to care for my mom.
Since my dad has passed my sisters have been home taking care of estate.

They have decided my mom should be in a home and I should not stay on past one year at which time they will sell the house.

I am okay with this decision. I have been told that my brother who has been taking money from my parents for some years now they plan on reducing his inheritance as they don't feel my parents should have been doing this and they want to have money back in fund.

I am okay with this, my problem is that I feel they will feel all my years of putting my life on hold and only excepting 4,000.00 a year to make up for my car payment is all I have earned. I sense my sister is going to try and do the same to me and take all this away from me.

I have taken parents to and from doctors appointments and run errands, stay over when one is in hospital and the list goes on. I have never resented doing this as my parents have been wonderful to all of us over the years. I don't feel it would be fair if sibling do this to me.
I don't feel they would give up their 50,000.00 a year jobs to settle for 4000.00 a year....

My question can......they legally do this to me or am I worried for nothing as long as it is written in will to divide is that what has to be honoured.

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Protect Yourself
by: Anonymous

Has anyone ever heard of a caregiver contract?
Go to a lawyer so that your can get your financial situation and other details straightened away. Nursing homes have it all detailed clearly and why don't families do the same?

If these elderly parents can afford it, they should compensate you financially maybe monthly and put you definitely in the will. If they're unwilling to discuss this then....you can be sure that all the sacrificing and love is going to the wrong person. I personally know of a woman who spent 20 years looking after her aunt doing absolutely everything for her, and in the end she changed her will secretly and left everything to her son in the next town.

5 years later she had a stroke and was left paralyzed. Some life for her. Oh yes the 1 son had time in his life to collect the money and sell the house.

He told her, "Your job is done now." Get a clause, put in the will, "If written out of the will, you will still receive a ?% " , so that all the years you've put in is not for the other guy. Evil relatives are out there.

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You do Have Rights
by: Anonymous

First does anyone have a Power of Attorney on your parents (mother)? Second, did your parents leave a will specifying who was to get what? The person with the Power of Attorney should be the one taking care of your mother and doing all the work. That is what the Power of Attorney is for.

If you parents did leave a will then the executor has to abide by the will. It is the law. If there is a will it could just "disappear" so you need to get a copy of it pronto to protect all involved. Hope this helps.

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