Feeling the Irritation
I am 44 years old with a husband, five children and my 78 year old mother. I am the youngest
Of 5 children yet only one of my sisters and I take full responsibility for her. My mom lives with me and she is unable to do most tasks on her own.
I quit my job last October to take care of her since in the last two years she has had a mastectomy, quintuple bypass, hip surgery and knee surgery. My mom is demanding and most of the time will not even attempt to do anything for herself. I get irritated and then feel guilty for having those feelings because I do love her but sometimes she makes it hard.
She has cried wolf so many times over the years that sometimes I don't know whether she really feels bad or just wants to go to the doctor. I have given up my privacy, moved my children into different rooms to make my mom her own room. I get irritated that my siblings think they can tell me what to do in my own house for mom when they don't even do anything but call her.
Only one sister ever helps and God love her she does a lot financially for me and my family since I no longer work. However, the others are quick to tell me what I need to do even as far as what color to paint my moms room in my own house.
I get tired of being on call 24/7 but I am more tired of some of my siblings making the comment that "you chose this". I will continue to take care and love my mom but it is a tiring and frustrating life. I think being able to vent to others who know what I am experiencing is very helpful. Thank you for allowing me to have peace of mind by getting the words out. I feel like crying sometimes because I feel that I am missing out on what should be a great time in my life.
My husband and children are wonderful but frustrated as well. Sometimes I wish I wasn't the one. It sounds awful and I don't mean that but I would love to say I am done and it's time for one of the others to step up. Sad thing is that I know that nobody would.