I am the youngest by seven years of two boys. When my father passed 21 yes ago my brother did not think it a priority to visit our dying dad on his sick bed. Now I am caring for our mom who has dementia.
Three years ago I moved her to the city where I live as it was clear she needed to be closer to family. Shortly after moving her into an independent living arrangement she began to have a series of mini strokes caused by the stress of learning her oldest son was about to have a liver transplant. The strokes brought on the dementia and now she needs 24 hr care as she can no longer walk and is incontinent .
After trying my best not to, I finally had to place her in a facility that provides the 24 hour care she needs. I visit her everyday and bring her to my house on weekends whenever possible. My older brother lives six hours away by car. When he comes to visit he's always in a hurry and has yet to spend a full weekend with mom. He does attempt to call her on a daily basis for a short hello, which I think is great. However, on Thursday he informed me that he and his wife were moving to Florida on Tuesday which is 1500 miles away.
I'm having a hard time reconciling how he can move so far away from his family and mom. The move is not out of necessity, rather by choice. I guess he can still make the calls but I know will never get any relief as his financial situation is not stable and in my opinion will get worse. I am so angry right now but refuse to show my anger to my brother. All I can say to him is good riddance.