I suggested that my mother-in-law move in with us a couple years ago because her health was failing and I feared for her living alone.
She and my husband put it off for over a year. We remodeled the house for her and she moved in....2 months later she suffered a stroke and is now mostly bed-ridden.
Overnight our lives have changed because she isn't walking. The frustrating part is that she doesn't seem interested in trying to walk!
My husband and I can no longer go to lunch/dinner together, run errands or have a day out.
Occasionally, his sister will give us a break, but she is doing Monday-Thursday while we are at work. The only time we are 'free' of caring for her is when we are both at work.
I love her very much, we just need to find help and balance fast!