Feel Sad and Guilty Moving Mother into a Facility

by Daughter is Trying

I have a bad feeling like I am betraying my mother. I am discussing moving her into a care community for her Alzheimer's.


I have been caring for her in her home, but I have completely given up my life, my savings, my boyfriend, and she is nasty to me mostly, however, even though, I still feel that she belongs in her own home.

Scheduling in home care is very costly and will not solve the problem of my being able to go back to work and have a life again.

So, I guess I am going to have to force her to give up her cozy home, her privacy, dignity and move into a public hotel like situation, which is what the care communities are.

She will hate it, I will hate it, but I guess it's the necessary choice.

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