Feel Older Than I Look.........

by Stressed
(Not too far Away to Care)

I reached under his car and disconnected the distributor cap. He is 90, has had a stroke and has seriously failing eyesight (macular degeneration & cataracts)- he cannot walk and has a disability parking badge. He hides his keys and refuses to discuss the subject - he hasn't done a driving test for over 70 years............ it's a huge and constant worry for all the family.


Especially as I (his son) am responsible but am based across the world in Australia and we have kids walking to school past our house every day - it is completely unnecessary as he has buses, taxis, delivery services and mobility scooters available.

Whilst I completely understand the need for independence for many reasons as we age and that it is a lifeline and he drives only when necessary and at 7am on a Sunday morning to go along the road for his shopping - the selfishness and lack of concern or empathy for others is soul destroying.

This is my father and I love him very much but sometimes it's very hard. It's sometimes a fine line between having to care and having to control and they are not perceived as being the same.

If you are an elderly driver please do think about this - there are options and maybe soon electric driver less cars, I hope but it's education and understanding at the end of the day.

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