Fedup with Siblings that Don't Care

by Teresa
(Oregon)

I have been taking care of my mom who has Parkinson's for the last six years and work full time. My older sister has nothing to do with my mother other than an occasional phone call. She also professes to be a "Christian".


My younger sister will have her son or daughters take turns watching my mom while I work but each and every one of them constantly gripe the whole time they are here and none of them work.

Everybody fights over who is going to watch my mom. My mom is getting harder and harder to deal with. I believe she is getting close to being in the last stages of the disease. She can barely walk. I have to take her showers and she gets me up at least one time in the night to help her in the bathroom. Every time I try to tell my sisters that I don't know how much longer I can do this, they call me selfish. I am constantly nervous I am going to wake up and find her dead.

I have such resentment towards this disease and my mom thinks it's resentment towards her. I have diabetes and arthritis and my own health problems so it is very hard taking care of her but I cannot bring myself to put her in a home. The whole situation is so very hard. I feel it's taking years off my life. I'm getting laid off from my job in a few months and my mom is selfishly happy a bout that.

I am so depressed. I cannot imagine staying home every day and not getting out daily to work!

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