Fed Up

by Pattie
(USA )

My mother is becoming more belligerent at 94. She's in independent living and bowls yet at 94.


My husband went into cardiac arrest this past June and while he was in ICU I brought her over for what I thought was support. All she did was tell me about how dirty my house was etc.

I showed her the vacuum and cleaning stuff and said have at it. A normal person would have quietly done this but she went into detail what she did yarda etc. I took her home two days later she was completely not compassionate and well, wasn't helping me.

Fast forward hubby has cardio rehab three days a week cannot drive for six months. I'm working PT for the summer and well, one week I didn't pick her up for lunch but did take her out that Sunday. First remark was "Where have you been?" I just answered very busy! At 63 I don't think I need to explain everything to her😁

So today I pick her up to grocery shop and before I know it she's p'oed because I didn't invite her over to BBQ on Monday...just had her Sunday!

Pretty soon she's throwing stuff at me from 10 years ago(moving her, etc.) and she tells me she doesn't need any help!

Geesh what do you do when they turn into a-holes? I mean no other kid steps up to the plate!

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Yes, understand
by: Anonymous

Brought my 92 year old mother up from Fort Lauderdale to Kentucky after numerous falls and rehabilitation's. Very nasty and mean person and really always has been but I am so guilty trying to take care of her now in an independent living facility.

Chronic complainer criticizes everybody is overweight talks differently anti-religious severely on everybody and it's just so prideful she thinks she's better than everybody I'm just ashamed of her but she has all my buttons she pushes.

Now she demands to go back to Fort Lauderdale and demands daily that I do this and then I could coerced her into moving up here I am fed up and at my wit's end.

Bringing her back there now and I hope I never see her again I know this is awful and then I can't take it anymore I think I need mental health professional now and it has taken me down a dark road and I really wished it but I am throwing in the towel I can't argue with her she's mean and loves to argue and it has sucked all my spirituality making me angry your whole person

So I am putting her to go back to work on the minion and I hope I can get my life back together.

I wish it didn't he spent so much money bringing her up here and I made it really nice place to live she's so mean and critical of everybody and I just can't take it anymore thank you everybody for sharing God bless

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Stop
by: Anonymous

Stop doing anything! No matter what you do she's not happy and doesn't appreciate it. So quit trying and don't feel guilty!

Sorry folks but I've been taking care of my 93 year old mother in my home for 18 months. She's "nice", but until you've been in this situation you have no idea how hard and demanding it can be.

I've given up almost every part of my life and most of my home to make my her comfortable and safe. The only thing that makes it bearable is that she at least expresses her appreciation. If she was like your mother, I would quit wasting my time.

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