My mother is becoming more belligerent at 94. She's in independent living and bowls yet at 94.
My husband went into cardiac arrest this past June and while he was in ICU I brought her over for what I thought was support. All she did was tell me about how dirty my house was etc.
I showed her the vacuum and cleaning stuff and said have at it. A normal person would have quietly done this but she went into detail what she did yarda etc. I took her home two days later she was completely not compassionate and well, wasn't helping me.
Fast forward hubby has cardio rehab three days a week cannot drive for six months. I'm working PT for the summer and well, one week I didn't pick her up for lunch but did take her out that Sunday. First remark was "Where have you been?" I just answered very busy! At 63 I don't think I need to explain everything to her😁
So today I pick her up to grocery shop and before I know it she's p'oed because I didn't invite her over to BBQ on Monday...just had her Sunday!
Pretty soon she's throwing stuff at me from 10 years ago(moving her, etc.) and she tells me she doesn't need any help!
Geesh what do you do when they turn into a-holes? I mean no other kid steps up to the plate!