Fed Up with Brothers
Four brothers: 69-67-64-54. I'm the only daughter - 59. I consider it a privilege to care for aging Mother--I moved her into my home 6 years ago--however, brothers act as if they could care less about her. Insensitive and self-absorbed.
Impossible to communicate with them - no openness on their part. No major family dysfunction when growing up - just never any quality communication. They simply do not make any effort. Their callous indifference toward her is mind boggling, and I find my resentment and disdain toward them increasingly difficult to handle.
I came to terms years ago that I would never be able to establish a healthy sibling relationship with them; however, seeing Mother in pain because of their neglect is tearing me up. She won't say anything about their behavior "I've raised them once - if they don't want to act right, that's their decision." I, on the other hand, would like to open a can of whoop ass on each of them!
I am fearful of the future when I will no longer be able to care for her by myself. Their financial resources are greater than mine but offer nothing to help maintain a home for her.
I work full time and use most all of my leave for doctors' appointments, hospital stays, etc. How can they not care?!!!!