FED UP, NOT ANSWERING THE CALL

I have dealt with her problems nonstop for years. Calls and recriminations, paranoia, and demands, verbal assaults, somehow her bad decisions are my fault? Some how, her debt is my fault. Not. I quit.


I have talked to her medical doctor and her therapist. She refuses to listen, she's driving against doctors orders, her seniors apartment complex calls me. I'm not the crazy woman making those choices. I do not want to hear another word.

I see by caller ID it's her community, and it's her apartment complex staff. They have her MD's information. I get nothing but platitudes from her therapist. I've done all I can. I will not bankrupt myself trying to fix her problems. She does not care, nor appreciate anyone's assistance, nor what it costs them.

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Do not Feel as if You have to Solve her Problems
by: Anonymous

I am dealing with the same issues with my mother.

She has made some bad life decisions in the past and would not heed my advice when those decisions were being made, so her decisions were made by her alone, then her consequences are hers alone.

She is still functional and gets around by driving herself, but she barely makes it financially, but refuses to budget or downgrade i.e, stay in a more affordable place, use coupons, stop giving money to her drug addict brother....the list is endless with the dysfunction that goes on.

But NEVER apologize for living your own life and putting yourself first. You are not meant to save anyone, especially your parents who made their own decisions.

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