Father with Parkison's Gifts House to Wife

by Keith
(Anacortes, WA USA)

So I am bothered by this, my father can no longer carry out conversations or talk on the phone or in person as he struggles so hard to talk.


What bothers me is his new wife has been with him for 30 + years and now owns the house we grew up in ..he has paid his child support and after the last kid turned 18 we no longer heard from him.

I stayed in same city as him and lived less then 2 miles and offered him to help paint house do garden work go fishing, walks, anything for father son activities.

His wife, my step mom would treat us so mean and nasty that she drove all the kids away but me. I continued to try and call him. I would call and set up times to visit him and she would take him out of the house.. so, I started to just show up unannounced just to see my dad and sometimes she wouldn't even allow me in until he came to the door.

I did some snooping because he can't talk on the phone. I told him I would write him letters because we still love him and want him in our life..so, I looked up his number but pulled up his land parcel and to find out in 1997 he gifted the house to her.

Why would a person do that my mom doesn't want his money and never did, they all will just blink when he dies but me, the only son who ever tried to interject his life with his real dad.

I tried to put a family tree together but the step wife always has to listen to us talk and make us both feel uncomfortable with her there watching us like teenagers. I'm 46 now and I had cancer 20 years ago so time and life is very precious to me.

What can I do now my fathers life is all gone he can't talk ...do I give up don't write letters or what .. take my kid to see her grand father but she won't be able to talk to... I'm at a cross roads scared and hurt..is it normal for people to gift house to loved one before they die....?

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