Father Long Distance

by Theodora
(Mo. USA)

My mother died Oct 30 2010 and we placed my father in assisted living. He is nearly 90 and my mother did everything for him. He did not want to come and live with me in Mo. he wanted to stay in Co. where he has lived half of his life.


I have power of attorney and take care of all of his bills and care from home for his needs however, this has become a part time job. I also find it very difficult to keep after his personal needs I have hired people to do many things for his care but alas it does not seem to be enough.... he really needs someone living with him to make sure he changes into clean clothes and such.

He wants to stay where he is and now I learn he is down to 165 pounds and he is 6'1" tall I am quite worried about him. If anyone has any help for me in this matter I would appreciate hearing from you.

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Now is the time to see him.
by: Mothers Assistant

Dear Theodora
He has lost weight and that means IT is time to see him. Go to him, take some time off of work if you have to.

When you get there, see if he will let you speak with his doctor. Seek information on near end of life events esp with the physical characteristics near decline's end. Learn to recognize the signs of mental decline.

Don't be alarmed by the things you will learn. Seek out the professionals where he lives, leave nothing to chance or long distance at this time.

Sincerely yours
Mel
Mothers Assistant

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