Family...There are no Guarantees
My Mom has 3 children, 7 grandchildren, 7 great-grandchildren, and they are all living over 600 miles away.
She sees some of them maybe once a year. If I wasn't here with her, I don't know where or how she would be living.
I'm not married and I haven't any children. Sometimes I wonder what will happen to me in my old age without children to take care of me. But then I look at my Mom's situation and realize that there are no guarantees that children will be there just because you have them.
My friends and family are surrounded in the security of the families they have created and I am alone with my Mom. Not only am I alone in the caregiving of my Mom, but when it ends, I will take that experience inside me and move forward with it alone on my own.
I realize now that I need some sort of community in my life, since I have no children, no family near me, and I will not have that comfort of family extending out before me.
I won't be able to sit on that porch in a rocking chair with my partner, and view all that we have accomplished together in a long line of generations.
There is a wall in my Mom's house that is completely covered in framed photos of all the children in all their stages as they grew. And yet none of them are here now. Just me. So even with family, there are no guarantees.