Family Turmoil

by Abigail
(Orlando, FL. USA)

I am the primary caregiver for my parents. My Mom got sick about 4 years ago, and they wanted to send her to a skilled facility. I spoke with my Dad and said NO, I can take care of Mom with a little help because she out weighed me by about 80 pounds, but we did it. Then my Dad got really medically ill about 2 years later, with advanced COPD and advanced CHF, medically more sick than my Mom.


MY baby sister has helped some but usually when she needs money. My older sister and I have been off and on since she married her 2nd husband and had her children and he physically and emotionally abused her and it damaged her children they told me.

My sister brought her kids to me when she thought he was going to kill her I never understood, how she could chose him over her kids, and believe me I told her and not very nicely.

Then she did not talk to our Mom for over 10 yrs. and I and my Mom said she did not know why. My sister said to ask Mom she knew why, my Mom said she had no idea.

I have called my older sister 2 times and I told her not to use me as a excuse to not see our parents, and the last time, she said I might come if you are not there, I said I live here. What do I do.

I have been going to counseling and understand, I am only hurting myself trying to get everyone to at least be cordial for our parents. I am where I should be. What else can I do to bring the family closer for our Mom and Dad?

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