Family Issue Not A Sister Issue ~

I have been caring for my MOM going on 2 and a half years now. She was diagnosed with a form of dementia.


I have 3 brothers. It seems they feel since I am the only female sibling , I should be doing 24/7 care for MOM. Which I am doing. Her Doctor told me at latest visit, he fears I am burning out. He says to call brothers and tell them to "suck it up and help care for MOM and give Sis a much needed break.

He also says that I should call one of them up and say, my husband and I will be leaving on Friday, and MOM will be staying with you while we are gone for a weeks long vacation. And hang up. He said, after that week is up, you will be better appreciated and they will see why you need a break.

He also said, that it is a family problem not a sister problem. And he says no wonder I am drained emotionally,I am our MOther's brain right now.

So, at least a one day a week break, and at least a weekend a month from them is what he suggests. I have been trying to get them to do this for 2 and a half years. Not sure this will change anything...but it sure is nice to know the Doc understands.

One of my brothers had the nerve to tell me, that it's only for a season. Well, why isn't he sacrificing some time since it is only for a season....please. Anyone out there that can relate?

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