Exhausted - Mom Thinks I Need to be at Her Assisted Living Home All Day!

by Linda
(California )

My Mom recently fell and fractured her neck (C1). Even though her neck is healing, she has developed some dementia and can't seem to learn any new daily routines. She wants me to do everything for her myself - she says the caregivers don't know what they are doing. When I leave for any reason she wants to know exactly what time I will be back.


She is learning to use her wheelchair, but won't leave her room because she might get lost and get stranded in the hall. One of her fears is that no one will bring her back to her room after meals. She can't even remember her bedtime routine.
How do I get her to see that her caregivers will help her?

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by: Anonymous

If this is a good assisted living facility they should be the ones telling your mother that they will be there for her. Try having one of the staff come in and talk to the both of you about the routine and have them assure her that they will make sure to get her back to her room safely and that they do this sort of thing every day.

All you can do is assure her that you will make sure to talk to someone even if you have to say it every time you visit. She may not remember that you spoke with someone the last time you were there if she is suffering from dementia. Hope this helps and I understand your pain.

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