by Daughter is Trying
(Alabama)
I have cared for my Alzheimer's mother for 4 years now. The long and winding road has taken me thru hell some of the time, and some times I am so grateful for some pleasant times with my Mom.
My mother set it up years ago that my 2 brothers managed her small retirement funds, and that I have access to her small monthly income checking account. She made the checking account a joint account with me. I have paid all the bills and managed everything these past few years. As she got worse, I moved her in to my house, then eventually gave up my job, put my stuff in storage, and brought her back to her townhouse so she could spend some time in her own home.
After a while, she became impossible for me to handle, and as much as I wanted to keep her at home, I placed her in an assisted living community, with my brothers help on the day of the move in. Otherwise, I am the only one on a daily basis, as my brothers live out of state, and have regular lives.
I have been committed to helping my mother, and giving her the best possible care. She has fallen sick several times, and had to be hospitalized, and I attended her constantly.
She is now in the memory care side of the community. I visit her daily, and smooth the way for the staff as she has her temper tantrums, and doesn't want anyone to help her shower other than me. I am happy to try to make her life as good as possible. She is still normal in most ways. I feel sad that she has to be there, but it was abusive for me living with her 24 hours a day.
A difficult situation and exhausting for me. Years of continual caregiving, no breaks at all. My brothers show up a few times a year, and she is so happy to see them. They really have no idea how much I do every day, and have for so long.
Now my brothers are becoming dictatorial to me, lording the fact that my mother named one of them the power of attorney, and they think I should not use any of my mothers small income to continue to pay the bills, since she is in
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