Every Little Thing is Like Moving a Mountain

by Constant Frustration
(Austin, Tx)

84 year old mother who declines every year this time of year then gets better. In the last three weeks, we've had: two hospitalizations, two MRI's, kyphoplasty on two vertebra, and now she is in a nursing home for rehab.


Getting her surgery scheduled in the first place was a nightmare--constantly having to call her doctors and the hospital to get it done. My brother finally had to contact the IR dept and make them schedule it. She was forced to wait over 7 days with two fractured vertebra in extreme pain because "the machine was broken". This is in the city of Houston,Texas where everybody and their dog does Kyphoplasty! One machine?!

Now--She doesn't remember the first two weeks of the hospital stays and has decided that she IS going home on Saturday no matter what. Family conference went great--her hollering that she is going home and she can do anything--despite having been almost bed-ridden the last three weeks. I asked her to show us that she could get dressed and get up by herself and of course she just changed the subject and says she is running out of money to stay there.

Told her she is there on Medicare and she knows that and she just moves onto something else, almost hysterical. Lots of fun.

My brothers and I have done nothing but try to coordinate her care and take care of her. We aren't even going to have any time to breathe now until she goes home and can't do what she needs to in order to stay independent.

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