Enough Already! It's None of Your Business!

My mom lives with us and no matter what we buy she wants to know what it costs. When we go to the grocery store, she says "wow" to everything I buy because she thinks everything is so expensive, unless it's from the Dollar Store.

We just bought a new door for our house and of course the first words out of her mouth are "how much does it cost".

I said I didn't know exactly and I will not tell her the final estimate either

I want to scream "it's none of your business"

She wants to know every detail of our lives. We have little or no privacy. Well from now on we will pick and choose what we will tell her.

It's so frustrating. I can't stand having her in my house!

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by: Anonymous

I have the same problem. My mom has been with me a year now. I HATE going to the grocery store. When I come home she has to come out of her room to see what I got. Stands there and says every single time, "Oh My God. You bought the whole store! I've never seen so many groceries in my life!"

Of course, its nothing different than what she used to do when she shopped, but something is different in her head now I guess. I used to get angry and now I just ignore it. It's all you can do. That and be sneaky when you can just to avoid the internal anxiety this causes.

When I shop for anything personal like new clothes, makeup, etc. I leave it in the car and go out early in the morning or late at night just so I don't have to hear about that as well.

It is what it is. She doesn't realize what she's doing and sometimes I think she still wants to be a part of things even if they don't make sense to her. We lose patience easily as caregivers.

Try to reach for compassion instead of anger. I know, it's hard. I run about 70/30 on that one myself. After so long with her now I've just learned to pick my battles.

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