Emotionally Angry Most of the Time

by Margot
(Lompoc, California)

I moved in with Mom 4 years ago. I'm 70 now, she's 91. There are times like tonight, that I hate her.


Her casual suggestions are meddlesome, demanding, self absorbed,and insulting. I'm living on Social Security. Taking care of her is a full time job.

Mom's embarrassed that I feel like I need more money. After all she's providing the house, and food for me to live on to take care of her.

I tried to get her to apply for Medical, but she dug in her heels, enlisted the aid of my sister who agreed with her. After all what in the world would I need more money for anyway?

I feel trapped, caught between a rock and a hard place, I resent the situation, the siblings, the other relatives who tell me they appreciate my situation but do so little to really get it. Especially the sister who lives close.

This is a toxic situation and I can not do this much longer.

I'm applying for a job, so adding more work on top of what I've got to do for this woman I do not like is going to be interesting at my age.

I don't know what else to do. AND you can bet I feel guilty hating my Mother.

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not alone
by: jen

so sorry for what you are going through. you are not alone. good to know i am not the only one. we need to take care of ourselves no matter what while still caring for mom or whoever.

learning to delegate and get help as much as possible. some days better than others. looking for light at the end of this tunnel. when i spend too much time on this caring and do not see friends i begin to lose perspective. self care primary.

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It's time
by: Anonymous

It's time to put your Mom in a home. She needs the care and yo need to protect your self now and for the future.. Please do find a place to take her and get your life back.

You've done enough.

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I hate Alzheimer's but love my mother
by: Rick

I have lived with my parents my entire life. I quit my job seven years ago to take care of my elderly father. He passed away a little over four years ago.

Now I am stuck living with my 81 year old mother. She has Alzheimer's and doesn't even remember my father. The Alzheimer's is getting worse.

She sleeps almost the entire day and night except when I take her out to lunch and dinner. She refuses to bathe. She wears dirty clothes and sleeps on dirty bed linen.

Quite frankly, she stinks bad. I am so burned out. I really would like to go out and find a job in order to get away from her.

I have no friends and my siblings refuse to put any effort to help. My Mother has a brother but he refuses to call or visit.

I am leaning toward putting my mother in a nursing home so I can get my life back before its too late.

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