My elderly Father and Mother have recently been moved near to me so I can look after them better. I am their main carer. My dad is now driving me to distraction and my husband fears I am close to a nervous breakdown. I honestly think my Dad could reduce the Pope himself to a stand up shouting match! I fear I will end up hating my Dad whom I have always been close to at the end of his life.
He is difficult beyond belief, unbelievably demanding completely ungrateful and completely focuses on what is not sorted yet or any minor problems in their new accommodation without any mention or gratitude of the million and one ways I have improved their quality of life and comfort - and I have worked so hard.
The minute I walk in the door - which is now obviously a few times a day he hits me with a problem /complaint. I actually felt physically sick as I walked in yesterday and at best the hairs on back of my neck stand up the minute he speaks. He will then completely wear me down on that problem or demand - badger me mercilessly till I resolve it - then when I do he immediately starts on the next thing.
Every day I vow not to have a stand up row with him and everyday I fail miserably. I am exhausted angry,resentful and very upset and guilt ridden. How do I set boundaries with him because at the moment the more I give of my time the more he wants/expects. I literally have to drag myself out the door and he always wants one more thing. He is taking over/ruining my life.