Elderly Mother has Pancreatic Cancer
My elderly mother has terminal pancreatic cancer and my sister and I are nursing her at home as long as we can. My sister lives with my mother and is the primary caregiver. I work from home boarding dogs so although I am flexible I cannot leave people's pets home alone for more than a few hours.
I live 15 minutes' drive away and try to help my sister as much as possible, as this stage 4/5 times weekly.
I had a difficult relationship with my mother and feel anger and resentment at the upheaval in my life. I have my own family and work to deal with but want to help my sister as we have a very close and cooperative relationship.
How can I deal with my feelings of resentment and sometimes revulsion at having to bath and feed and care for my mother's toileting needs?