Elderly Mom Getting Difficult To Handle

by Lynn
(Texas)

I live with my 85 year old mom who is rapidly declining mentally. She has no short term memory and she is on an emotional roller coaster every day. She gets depressed a lot and has angry outbursts in public. The last incident was inside her bank. I took her to get a print out of her checking account statement. When the teller handed to her she raised her voice to him complaining that the print was too small for her to read. Then she apologized and did a 180, telling him what a nice smile he had.


She also badgers me every day, 3 or 4 times a day about how horrible the house is and how its unfit to live in(its fine) I strain to keep from telling her to shut up.She also insults me and asks me questions as if shes goading me into a fight with her.

I'm starting to lose compassion for her because of the cumulative affect of her negativity towards me

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I feel your pain too
by: Rick B

I could not help but notice some similarities in regard to my mother's behaviors. My mother is 82 and has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's since Spring of 2015. I live with my mother too.

Have been living with her all of my 53 years. Her behaviors have been difficult for me to live with too.

I just keep telling myself her behaviors are due to her Alzheimer's and there is nothing I can do to change the negative behaviors. The best I can do is to try and redirect her mind to some other task at hand and simply try to ignore the negative e behaviors.

Believe me, I feel your pain too.

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Verbal and mental abuse
by: Ramona

Hi Lynn, I also deal with my 81 year old Mom. It's several times a day of negative outburst. Today I had enough.

I spent 6 hours at Arkansas Department of Human Services. So great to get some positive encouragement. Only to come home to negative Mama.

I found out today WE do have some programs to help us caregivers care for our family. I have another meeting soon to see which program is best. Respite is a program I'm very interested in.

Lynn , I'm so concerned for our mental and physical health. They stressed to me today how the the baby boomers are dying from neglecting their health because of the stress caring for our elderly family. Very concerning. Take care and seek some help.

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