Elderly Communication - How do We tell Dad he Needs Care?

by Nicole

My father had a seizure and well now has been diagnosed with diabetes and has a hard time remembering things and well, needs help as well as heart problems for he use to drink loads of alcohol. We believe before all this happen
he had a problem with alcohol.

My brother is dealing with my father, his finances and well he is the executor of everything in my father's name. My brother lives in San Diego, CA and my Dad
lives in Alameda CA. I live in England with my husband and daughter. I know my brother is doing what he can for my dad. I guess at this stage I was wondering
how do we tell my father, or how does my brother tell our father he has to go into care and won't be going back to his home?

How can I help other than listening? Can we make transition a bit easier by making arrangements a head of
time and well? I guess I just need to know what we should be doing next.
Maybe I just needed to talk to someone to get my feelings out about this. Is there a group I can attend? For some support. Just wondering. Thanks for your help and
time.