Elderly Care for Aging Parents - What an Undertaking this has Been
Seems the stories here have the same type difficulties that all caregivers have, namely the exertion of knowing that you moved out and away for a reason and am now having to relive those memories that have been/were buried all of these years.
My husbands' mother moved closer by us around 3 months ago and wow, what a change this has been for all of us.
The constant requests his mother that come about time and time again are beginning to take tolls on all of us as we are having to set aside more and more time for elderly care issues than living our own life.
Vacations...out, nights for a quiet dinner, out...being able to get home from work and have a little downtime, out...you get the picture.
Our lives are officially on hold for the foreseeable future as Doctor's appointments, grocery runs, weekly (sometimes daily) repairs for light bulb replacement, gardening ideas she has that we must work on, etc.
Is anyone having this type of frustration? I see the time that TWO will need care of this nature as my father is getting more and more inactive and being more and more needy.....he is two hours away now and I am the closest one of my sisters and brother and sounds as if I am the reasonable choice for this task.
Seems sort of unfair that we have to take this on as we work have a home and life of our own.....don't know how the older generation did it but is it ever tiring and frustrating.
Here we are, getting our lives set and seeing retirement a few years away and this comes along to accelerate our "to-do's" instead of downshifting and making life easier....don't know what to do frankly, other than take a deep(er) breath and continue on....thanks for reading this, just wanted to get this off my chest....reading others' comments have helped know that I may be not alone.....nice place to do this, thanks to the website for thinking of this....Erica