Elder Caregiving - Yes I do Resent it !!
I am 45, my parents were divorced when I was 10, older brother who is 11 years older than me. I have gotten to live away from home 5 yrs total, due to my parent being older when I was born.
My mom, who is 75, has had 6 heart bypasses, works out three times a week and for the most part is okay, we have stents or checks on the ones she has yearly. Due to money I have stayed at home and kept things going. I am lucky compared to most, but it is hard to watch her mind get bad and day in and out watch her not be able to sleep and having to repeat yourself 3 to 4 times a week because she does not remember the last conversation. With no help and having to work extra to help with her medications and bills, I do get frustrated. My brother and his wife response is, not my problem. I feel like a bad person because I get frustrated, with her, I do love her very much. But it does get hard.