Elder Care Anger - Sadness is Setting In

by Linda
(Virginia)

I have been here at this web site before and was able to relieve some stress because I was so angry at my sisters who have made this whole process so difficult.

They tell me how to feel, what to say and do, what not to say and do, etc.

My oldest sister was declared Executor of my parents estate in 1992. I do not know why no one else was given the option or why they did not assign co-executors?? Since then, I have been pushed and bossed around by this "Executor" and the baby sister agrees with everything she says (just to keep her happy). The only sister who would feel like I do was taken away by a drunk driver in 1995. We were the middle two and just alike. I still miss her a lot.

They(parents) are in a nursing home on medicaid(poor money management by the Executor) has left them with nothing. My Mom(80) is unable to walk plus a stroke victim (since 1995) and Daddy(88) has stage 4 cancer and his days are numbered. It is sad to see him now because he is not lucid. The doctors assume the cancer is in his brain. He has hallucinations and sleeps a lot. He is on pain patches. Just 2 weeks ago I was able to take them to church but things have really gone downhill since.

The anger seems to be leaving me and there is just a heavy sadness. My Dad seems to have angels around him weekly as I visit. My Mom knows he will be leaving her soon because she has tears over the smallest matters. She seems to be trying to prepare herself. I know a higher power will care for this matter but it is still a very hard time in my life.

Thanks for listening.