Elder Care Anger - It's My Problem Now
(Media, PA. USA)
After living away from my family for 17 years I was convinced by my brother that my mothers living situation was in such horrible state that I needed to consider moving home. My mother is a hoarder so every room in the house was packed full of a hodge podge of treasure and trash, all co-mingled and creating a safety issue.
I moved home a year ago and between working a full time job and sifting through all the stuff I was able to move in to better take control of the situation.
My siblings fit the old adage " Hell is packed with good intentions" My younger brother lends a hand but he does it at an arms length. My older sister can not deal with anything negative and is a string of excuses when it actually comes down to getting her hands dirty.
My oldest brother is completely worthless and has little to no contact with us.
I feel abandoned and lonely, my finances since moving in are severely strained due to my mothers unpaid bills and fixing the physical property of the home that has been so neglected for all these years.
The only bright part of my exisistence is my two dogs and cat. I have no social life since I spend every waking moment cleaning up the hoard or working.
I resent my sister the most who has no job, a grown son and a husband but yet can find no time to set aside from her crafting activities to help her mother. She spends more time behind the church pew then with her own mother.
I just want to run away and hide but I am stuck.