Elder Care Anger - Elderly Mother-In-Law is Stressing my Marriage

by Hopeless
(Boston )

My Mother-In-Law has lived with me and my wife all 13 years of our marriage..... we are relatively young 33 and 34 and she is 67 her body is starting to break down from years of alcohol abuse and cigarette addiction, she has the education of a 4th grader and we also have 3 kids....W

We get no help from her 2 older brothers and older sister all who live within 10 minutes of us, it's real stressful because my wife's job is very demanding and sometimes she get's home so late she may not see her mother for like 3 days because she is gone before she wakes up and get's home when she is asleep. I'm currently out of work but I'm basically a caregiver...in no way did I sign up for this but since I'm home it has been thrust into my lap..she needs 24 hour care and honestly I'm trying to get my career back on track and have no time to care for an elderly parent much less not even my OWN! mother and take care of 3 kids..any advice?