Elder Care - Anger and Resentment - Help. And good advice wanted

by Karen
(Nottingham)

My mum is 82 and has serious health problems.

I have three brothers who live local to my mum and all have cars money and their own homes all bought. They do nothing for my mum..... they never ask her to visit their homes or for Christmas well nothing. One brother visit twice a year, one visits for one hour a week on same day and the other one visits one day a week for just two hours and in between these visits they do not ring up.... nothing. Now I'm a single parent I live in another city and for the last 21 years I been my mums caregiver.

My brother told my mum I'm crazy and choose bad relationships and in fact criticize me for being unemployed, yet I still care for mum and won't ever stand up to them. She just says "o boys will be boys"..... it makes me so angry but all mum says is "o don't make trouble leave it".... but they are her sons and I am not an only child.... why should I have to do this myself?