Drew

by AMW
(KY)

I am currently in a very bad position regarding care giving. My brother has a long history of being suicidal, negative and depressed.


On top of that, he is almost completely blind and has had toes removed because of diabetes. My mother is fighting cancer and takes care of my disabled dad.

I have no one to help make decisions regarding his care and no room for him in our tiny house.

My wife is quickly becoming angry about having to deal with caring for him. He is a nice person, but has too many issues to deal with. Mom says she can't deal with him or take care of another person along with dad.

On one hand, I understand her not helping, but now my (pissed off) wife and I are stuck dealing with him. He is also so behind on his rent that he could very well get evicted at any time.

When I mention a nursing home, he whines about it like a child. He can't afford assisted living and didn't make an effort to learn how to use his cane when he still had some eyesight.

I feel so trapped and think that my marriage will start to suffer very soon if he doesn't leave. We have only been married for a little over a year and have a kid in middle school with behavior/authority issues. I feel pretty hopeless right now.........

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by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry, that sounds really hard!!

If I might tell you my opinion . . .

Your brother is young, you can't possibly take care of him for his whole life.

You must protect your marriage and child too.

Your brother will probably be better off in an assisted living home.

Good luck,

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