Double Whammy

by Kaypasa
(Detroit, MI, USA)

I not only care for my 93 year old mother, but also have my 42 year old son, who suffers from depression and anxiety, living with us.


We all get along, and my son is very helpful, but the stress of my mom's chronic pain, and the thought of what will become of my son when I'm gone, stretches my mental and physical resources to the limits most days.

Sometimes I think it would be a relief if we could afford to put my mom in a care center, but I know I'd always be worried about her quality of care. I don't know the solution for this.

I do try to take an hour each afternoon to go to my room, listen to music or read or just nap. That's helpful, but I still always feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders.

My older sister lives 9 hours away and is too frail herself to offer any help. And my mother is not her mother, although she's the only mother she's had since age 3.

My brother lives less than 5 miles away but is very wrapped up on his own life to bother with us. He will offer monetary help if asked. So, no help forthcoming from those quarters.

Any suggestions on how to deal would be welcome.

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