Don’t Thank Me

Don’t thank me for taking care of mom like I am doing YOU a favor! That shows me that you are only thinking about yourself and how you are off the hook for doing nothing. Thanking me absolves you of the guilt for not doing anything because, from your perspective, at least you’re thanking me and somehow that makes you a good person.

I’m not taking care of mom for you, so that you can freely pursue your dreams. I am doing this solely and completely out of love for mom. It’s a sacrifice of my life. It has nothing to do with you.

This is between me, mom and God.

Instead of absolving yourself of guilt, think of ME and what I’m giving up. You act like I have no life other than taking care of mom. Thank me for all the things I am giving up in my life to do this. You never even consider that. The list is endless and unknown.

I am giving up precious time with the love of my life. Sunsets at the beach. Time with lifelong friends. Vacations. Hikes. Concerts. Fixing up my own house. I’ve lost the freedom to put myself first and do whatever and go wherever my thoughts take me.

I have put all my ambitions, desires, goals, wants and needs on the back burner for the last seven years and it’s still ongoing. It’s not like I’ve been able to pursue my own life while taking care of mom. I am giving up a lot of my life to do this.

It would be a whole lot different if I had a lot of help and I could give to my life as equally as I give to mom. I would love pursuing my life while doing this but I can’t. I don’t resent this invaluable learning and spiritual growth time.

I understand all that in the big picture. I understand that this is what I am supposed to be doing. I don’t resent being here for mom.

But I am saddened by the things I’m giving up on a daily basis as time marches by. And I am saddened by the fact that you never see me.

Hopefully I am still able to gather these things around me when this is done.

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Don't Thank Me
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you.
Many of us fully know how you feel and what you so aptly expressed here.

You're a much better person than I am. I resent having to do this. I am angry with my siblings and I'm angry with my mom too.

I do it because at the moment I have no choice, but I resent every moment.

You are a loving and caring person who I hope will have nothing but the best of life when this monumental task is over.

I wish I could have your attitude.
I feel your sadness, I just wish I could be the loving person that you are.

Take good care (((hugs)))

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