Don't Really Know What to Do

by Evonne
(Missouri)

We (my husband and I) moved my mother back to where we live as we both felt we could at least look after her better than we felt she could for herself.


That was three years ago.....

At the time she was very happy and active as we found her a church she could attend and now she has several friends her own age she can talk to and visit with during the week in person and by telephone.

The issues are now however starting to show up a little at a time and looking back over the last several years are starting to worry me. Issues such as memory lapse, driving "incidents" and little mentions here and there of hearing a radio that is not on, and leaving the oven on over night....each individually are no big thing, but when my husband and I recount all of them over time it starts to get worrisome.

I am sure this is normal for an 82 year old, however I fret for the future as I do not know how to broach the subject of taking the keys to the car away (dents and scratches are beginning to appear) and bring in a part time caregiver (to maybe cook, clean and just watch over her) as we both are lucky enough to still have jobs and probably will not be able to take the time off required for this in the future.

Would love to hear from anyone on this as I (we) are kind of alone on this and really have no one to gauge if this is normal or the start of something big.

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