Don’t feel Guilty
My mother and grandmother have passed away but they never would have wanted us to take care of them if they became invalids. My grandmother did go to a nursing home for a short time but my mother died without ever going to one.
I just don’t understand the guilt people have and they force themselves to take care of their narcissistic parents or parents that need way too much help. Put them in a nursing home and go visit them if you want.
My cousins visited their parents every day in a nursing home but at least they could sleep at night and had freedom to do things.
I don’t think I would have even visited my parents if they had been as hateful as some of the parents I read about on here. I have a friend that has one of the most selfish mothers I have ever seen. She is demanding and selfish and thinks the world revolves around her.
She has screwed up every child she has had but because of guilt they are like slaves to her. One daughter has destroyed her life because her mother has used guilt on the kids since they were little. Quit doing that, life is short so don’t spend your years being miserable, put them in a home.