Do you have to walk on eggshells in your own home?

Since my mom's been living with us I feel as if I have to walk on eggshells in my own home and I'm getting sick of it!

I'm changing things though. I'm taking a stand.
She gets huffy over everything. For example she has a bunch of mail next to her on the couch so I asked her if she was going to keep it. She got all huffy and now she's pouting.

Do any of you have to deal with this childish type of behavior. It's getting ridiculous!

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by: Anonymous

Progressing childish behavior is very common in the elderly. One, their brain is changing and two, they have given up everything they are used to and are trying to conform to "your" normal and that would be difficult for you or I.

Likely all the papers beside her that annoy you are how she lived and when you bring it up it's just one more example to her of how she has to change.

I pick my battles with my mom. I've also made the transition to being the parent now and that makes it easier. It's hard becoming the parent to your parent. It doesn't feel natural and just being around them often puts us right back into that little girl mode. As the parent now, I make most decisions without even asking her.

She put a table by the recliner in my living room. There's one on the other side, but she won't use that one. For the longest time I would rage inside whenever I saw that table or thought about all my beautiful rugs on the floor I had to take up because of her walker.

I finally gave up and let her just be happy about that one. Other things I stand my ground. Do what is important to you, but do also be mindful that someone is trying to fit into "your" life. I try to put myself in my mom's shoes and think how I would feel.

Even making concessions, it's just plain hard having someone intrude into your home and life because it changes absolutely everything. Nothing is comfortable to me anymore.

As for pouting, that's going to happen. Whenever I leave for an hour or two - geez, we do need groceries and someone has to get them - I still get the silent treatment and slamming doors, but it eventually stops. It bothered me for a long time, but now I just ignore it.

As these behaviors progress it's only going to get worse. Like I said, pick your battles with what is really important to keep your own sanity.

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