Distraught Daughter

by Lopez
(Los Angeles, Calif USA)

Well, let me tell all of you about the winners (3 sisters) I have had to cope with. Bear in mind I live with my mother' how this came about, was about 9 years ago.


I owned my own condominium disabled and I live alone. At which time my sister adopts my nieces 4 children and my mother started needing some help.

I would get phone calls telling me how I'm the only one my mother wants. I ignore it since I talk to my mom everyday and she never mentions it to me. But, she does say my sister can't find anyone to help her.

I ran into some financial problems and asked for help to pay my mortgage. It suddenly seems that no one can help me. I ended up losing my home.

Now, I have to move back with mom. For 9 years now, I helped raise my 2nieces and 2 nephews. I care for my mother by myself, because my youngest sister is an addict and alcoholic. My oldest and the second to the youngest want nothing to do with me or my mother because conveniently I'm to blame.

They accused me of stealing my mothers money. Then took my Social Security checks from me for 2 months to pay my mother back the money I supposedly "stole" from her but never deposited it into her bank account. Took a $35,000.00 dollar loan out on her house and have the loan payment deducted from my mothers bank account.

And any money I got from my mothers account was used on her, food and medicines. So, after they came to my mothers house called me names became physically abusive, I decided from that point on I will not ever ask for any kind of help for either my mother or myself ever. And you know something? My mom and I have never been happier.

Don't misunderstand me in my heart I wish it would have never turned out this way. So, I turned it over to God, and he brought me peace.

When, things get hard and I don't know what to do I'm feeling scared I know I'm on my own I try to do my best I remember how much my mother needs me then I start to smile. Because, just like that all my fears and worries disappear. Thank you , I would like to know if this helped anyone,

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So Tired
by: Margaret, Tulsa, OK

My loving, caring, smart mother now lives in independent/assisted living and has become sarcastic, demanding, unpleasant, and unreasonable.

I live 2 hours away.

My brother lives in another state and has been to see her twice in 8 years. Am I angry? You bet, but most of all I'm overwhelmed and exhausted.

I took care of my husband until his death from cancer. Since then, I've been trying to balance work and care-giving. I don't think I'm very good at either. I dread answering the phone.

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by: Anonymous

Thank you for those beautiful words. I am sorry for all your family troubles. Take care and God bless

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