Difficulty Getting Mom to Leave Assisted Living to get Out and do Things

by Sissy
(Myrtle Beach, SC, US)

Mom moved into assisted about 2-3 months ago. My sister and I both live nearby. This was her choice. She would not come live with one of us.I have had a heck of a time getting her to agree to leave the place for outings. Our normal routine when she was in her home was to go out for Saturday lunch every week. I have finally gotten her to do that a little bit.


It’s like she thinks she has to stay there and be there all the time- like a prison! Of course, she says all her meals are paid for at assisted living; why spend money going to eat elsewhere???

For Christmas, I found an oceanfront condo for peanuts. Booked Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. I thought it would be a nice treat, a nice getaway. (We all live near the beach.) I cannot convince her to come. I would pack for her. Just 2 nights. She won’t do it.

It is very frustrating for me. The place where she is living is OK but not a luxury place by any consideration. Why on earth would she not want to have an ocean view for Christmas?

Help me understand.

She is mobile- walks with a cane for support. She has 100% cognitive functioning for her age. I understand she gets tired easily. She can nap and rest at the condo. It makes me just so depressed she will not leave the place.

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