Difficult

by Isabella M.
(Vermont, USA)

I try to talk about it as though she and I were having a discussion about anything. But she doesn't want to think she will ever die, or that it will ever be necessary for her to go to a nursing home.


I don't want her to have to, and will do all I can to prevent it, but if she becomes unable to walk or completely (bowel) incontinent, it could be a problem.

I worry that she is becoming fearful of me... maybe I should not be so honest about it.

Does anyone have ideas?
Thanks.

Comments for Difficult

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

Rating
starstarstarstar
reply
by: Danny

It will be very difficult to manage your elderly parents especially if he or she is completely incontinent. In your case, you need not be completely honest with your parent about her condition and should give your best to help her out.

Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Denial about life span
by: Anonymous

My mom talks like she will go with us wherever we move someday. Her health is not that great and her activities are limited.

I worry about the discussion about her giving up control of her finances. If I get a full time job and find a part time caregiver, (not sure we could afford one ), how do I prevent her from sending the caregiver out with a shopping list for things we can't afford?

I'm not much help, but I think I understand some of what you are going through.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Communication with Elderly Parents.


Home | Site Map | About | Contact | Privacy Policy | Disclosure

© Copyright evSky Incorporated 2008-2017 | All Rights Reserved


Eldercare for

Aging Parents

Are you having a difficult time with being the "Caregiver" for Mom and Dad?

Click Here to Read What Others are Saying and Leave a Comment About Your Own Experiences....

Or Start your Own Discussion Page!

Recent Articles

  1. The Tide Is Turning

    Oct 20, 17 10:28 AM

    I’ve been taking care of mom for seven years. I read this forum faithfully. I now see more sentiment surfacing in favor of facility-assisted care. There’s

    Read More

  2. Who am I?

    Oct 20, 17 10:26 AM

    I'm the youngest and I always knew I'd be the one to care for my mum. i have a sister who lives opposite my mum. when my mum had a stroke, me and my sister

    Read More

  3. Bewildered

    Oct 05, 17 02:54 PM

    Selfishness, selfishness when you don't feel yourself anymore when all is expected and no thanks are given when your jaw feels so tired you can't close

    Read More