Demanding Selfish Father
My Father is 80 and in a nursing home. My Mother has advanced Dementia in the next building of the nursing home. My Brother lives in Dubai, a university professor who flies in a few times a year takes my folks for lunch and then continues on his holiday.
I have lost 3 years of my life, my job, my savings, moving them into the home, selling their retirement villa, fighting overcharging of fees with the home and looking after the demands of my selfish father who never bothered to do very much for me. Moved to another state when first grandchild born and didn't have much of relationship with my kids even after my second son was born. Never flew to visit, it was always us doing the visiting. He couldn't even fly down to help me when I was on deaths door with a 5 day bout of severe food poisoning and couldn't even get out of bed to look after my kids who were 3 and 1 at the time.
My Mother came down but not my Dad. He has turned into a manipulative old man who makes up fantasy stories about my movements cos I'm no longer available to drop everything and come running for him. I've gone back to work to pay off the debts I run up after having to quit my job to attend to their move into the nursing home and all the events that had to be finalized to get them settled into good care.
I am at my wits end with my Brother and his ex wife the ex sister in law from hell who buys into his delusions of what I should be doing for him. I've had enough of all of them....not one of them including my Mother and Father cared for their elderly parents . My Brother "cares" from a distance and my ex sister in law "cares" for her elderly parents from a distance...but they all tell me that I should be doing more.My Dad says that "I am the dutiful daughter"
I am so at the end of my rope. If I could speak Greek I would pack off to a Greek Island and just be !!!