Deep Resentement Towards my 2 Older Sisters
I am the youngest of three sisters, and was the one to take Mom (with dementia) in with my husband and I shortly after my Dad passed away. I cared for her for a little over 18 months by myself with very little help from my sisters.
Zero help from my oldest sister.
My Mom passed away with my husband and I with her recently. My sisters were here briefly days before she passed, but left when they wanted to go home. I slept on the floor by my moms bed and the next night my sister who lives very close told me "she was going to go home as she was tired." I f...ing wanted to scream, "you don't think I'm tired?"
I am missing my Mom so much my heart aches and feeling so much sadness and anger towards my sisters. I truly don't know if I can ever have a healthy relationship with them after this journey.
I just don't understand for the life of me how siblings can walk away and not feel any responsibility to help when one sister is doing all the work.
What part of helping out do you not get???? Do you not think caregivers need time off?
I read all these tips on letting your siblings know what you need? YOU F....ing don't know how helpful it would be to call and offer your time?? Out of the kindness of your heart and the love and compassion you feel for your family you truly think we don't need a break?????
My Mom has passed and the resentment I feel towards my sisters is awful. If your sibling is doing all the work, and your living your life as though it isn't happening, just know that it is.
If this gets one person to see how important it is for you to offer your help all I can say is Amen. Just realize the parent will pass away. Step up to the plate and help out. Let the caregiver know how much you appreciate what they are doing for your Mother and do whatever you can to alleviate some of the stress.